bernstenlr asked:
yogpetshame answered:
I hate that my gut reaction is also the most accurate thing to apply to this, especially because it seems so insensitive. The fact is, when dating an entertainer, fans are always an intrusion into the relationship. Despite the fact that the fans are the source of the problem, she has to go to Chris about it, not lash out at a faceless mob of teenagers.
The conversation is brutally simple:
“Is our relationship jeopardized by your popularity on the internet.”
“No.”
“I feel better. Thanks.”
All the heartache over teenagers’ hormones going Bieber fever over her boyfriend goes out the window.
Still, I’m hardly here to provide relationship advice. The worst case scenario is also a very unlikely one, that their streams end because of the sexual objectification. She doesn’t have a voice loud enough in that community to motivate any sort of cultural change, and on some level the appeal of Hatfilms is that they’re a group of funny, attractive British men, and that will infinitely attract a fresh audience who will only do as instinct drives them. So if she doesn’t resolve it on her own with Chris, she’s just going to keep hurting herself on it, and neither Hatfilms as a production nor the fans will feel the difference.
Putting my foot down now. I’m fucking sick of people assuming things. I am no longer attending streams because the fandom is getting more and more uncomfortable for me. That’s my opinion. I am part of it because I always have been but now there is just no place for me which is becoming clear. I stuck around to try and do my job as a moderator and it’s just not gonna happen anymore. I did NOT say it was one specific stream that irritated me. I didn’t tell anyone to stick up for me and tell people how to act. I don’t feel insecure about my relationship but everyone seems to keep telling me I am. Put yourself in this position. It’s irritating as hell but there’s nothing I can do and it’s not gonna change so whatever. The screencap of me talking in twitch chat was taken from weeks ago and clearly the user has been sitting on that wondering when to try and call me out. GG for that.
Seems that whenever I voice any opinion that is negative you all jump on me for it. Probably shouldn’t even be writing this for that same reason.
